Archive Monthly Archives: February 2019

Big Love, Small Acts (aka Love is… Simple)

I filmed today’s video during one of my morning walks because this month I’ve been talking about love, and my morning walks are one my acts of self-love.

As I’ve said in my other videos this month, showing yourself love makes it a lot easier to give and receive love to other people but sometimes it doesn’t happen because we can make these acts of self-love much BIGGER than they need to be… which can then mean they don’t happen at all. 

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For example, when I first moved out to Westcliff-on-sea from London, I managed to have a few months where I would actually manage to get out walking by the seafront for a full hour. Then life got busy and that hour didn't seem possible or realistic, so I just stopped even though I know that going for a walk really makes a difference to how I feel and how the rest of my day goes.

I realise now that the problem was that I made it way too big by deciding that my walk had to be a whole hour. But when you're really busy that feels overwhelming because it's just another thing on your to-do list. 

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How (and Why) to Love your Inner Child

I continue this month's theme of Love with a video about how (and why) to love your "Inner Child". 

This is about showing love to that young part of you that didn’t get the love that it may have needed at an earlier time of your life... because this will be having an impact on you as an adult (even if you feel you had a good childhood.) 

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This might have been in a situation where there was trauma or abuse, or it may be something that now seems like it's merely a mild disappointment but - at the time - the young you found it really quite traumatic e.g. a parent snapping at you or dismissing your, not getting the grades you wanted, being told you were bad at sports or maths (and I could go on).

This young part of you needs a bit of loving because at the time they didn’t get what they needed to feel safe and happy... until they get this love, it can stop you feeling truly safe and happy as an adult, which keeps you stuck and/or overwhelmed.

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“I’m OK if you’re OK” – A Valentines Relationship Tip

In my last video, I talked about the importance of loving yourself unconditionally.

Today, being the “Official Day of Love” I’d like to give you a tip on how to improve your personal relationships – whether that’s with a spouse/partner or another relationship.

It’s a continuation on the self-love theme, but particularly in relation to other people.

My tip today is to notice where your ability to love yourself depends on how much other people show you love, or where you find that your happiness is dependent on the happiness of your loved ones.

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Love is… Unconditional

It’s the month of love and all around us there are red roses and heart shaped balloons, and the birthday cards have been shoved to the back of the shops in favour of sometimes sweet, sometimes silly, Valentine’s paraphernalia.

So this month, I’ll be joining in the fun and talking about love. But not just the commercialised “Show your love by spending your money” variety. I’ll be talking about true love – unconditional love – for yourself, your life, and in your relationships.

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Most of us place conditions on the love we have for ourselves or others. In one way or another we show love to others if they fulfil our needs in some way (and withdraw it if they don't. Or we decide only to show ourselves love when I’ve achieved a particular goal, or got to the bottom of a  to-do list. 

But true love is genuinely unconditional – and there whatever you do or don’t do – which is what makes it so satisfying and fulfilling. And it starts with the greatest love of all (I’ll try not to burst into song) – and that is loving yourself… yes UNCONDITIONALLY. 

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