Ditch the New Years Resolutions & Shine in 2019!

(Plus a bit about an event to help you do that... and your chance to get yourself a FREE Freemind Hypnotherapy Session)   

Did you know that there's a Ditch the New Years Resolutions Day? (It's 17th January in case you're wondering.) Apparently most people who made New Year’s Resolutions will have given up on them by now anyway. But the idea behind this Ditch the New Years Resolutions Day is that you decide to ditch the unrealistic, overwhelming goals that resolutions usually are and realize that you’ve got to make real strides, all year long to make any kind of change happen, and start looking at real lifestyle changes. 

Watch the video below or read more below.

However, that can feel a bit daunting when you realise that the changes you want to make are actually about a lifestyle change - and a lifelong process - and that changing a lifetime of bad habits is easier said than done.

For me, that’s where the Freemind System comes in...


Could 2019 be the Year that Changes Everything?

How was 2018 for you?

Are you starting 2019 thinking “I just can't have another year like last year…” and “This year has got to be the year things change!”

Well, what if this year could actually be the year that things change and you didn’t have to keep going on that merry-go-round of feeling stuck and overwhelmed and really want to just get back to feeling like yourself and being excited about life again.

The good news is that there is a way to make that happen!

Watch the video or read more below. 

The key is to overcome three core limiting beliefs which hold people back....


The Problem With Positive Thinking

In the middle of the semi-circle of chairs, directly opposite our facilitator, I sat in floods of tears with 15 pairs of eyes on me.

It was day 4 of the training, and it was only the day before that I had been waxing lyrical about how amazing I felt and how my heart was so open and the world was so wonderful and colourful and bright... I had been a virtual paragon of positive thinking. So what happened in that 24 hours to turn me into a wet mess?

The Problem with Positive Thinking

If you find that you try all the positive thinking and law of attraction stuff, but only get so far before you start behaving in a way that is so not aligned with where you want to be, then you might have the same problem I did. Because you can do all the positive thinking in the world, and spout affirmations till the cows come home, but if you haven't done the deep diving into your emotions - the subconscious "baggage" that weighs you down whether you know it or not - then it might help for a bit, but the results will not be very long lasting.  

It might even feel like you're wearing a mask of positivity when, inside, you just want to scream into your pillow or cry in a corner.  The funny thing is, I needed to turn into a wet mess in order to remove my mask and really allow me to move forward in a positive way. 


How Do You Define Success?

I was reading Aniela Gregorek's chapter in the book 'Tribe of Mentors' by Tim Ferris* over the weekend and this quote really hit me...

"To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children… to leave the world a bit better… to know even one life has breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded.”  (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

A woman with a brightly lit umbrella stands under a night sky and a shooting star

I won't lie, an involuntary sob even escaped (yes, I am a cryer and no longer ashamed of it). Aniela Gregorek is a former political refugee who is now a weightlifting champion, business owner and author. So her story was inspiring enough, but I couldn't quite work out why this particular quote affected me so deeply.

I realised that it's because it was a definition of success that had nothing to do with society's version - which basically amounts to being rich and skinny as far as I can tell (plus a whole host of other expectations based on gender, race, religion, community and more.) So it made me want to define success on my own terms.


How To Love What You Do

Do you REALLY Love What You Do?  If you're a modern professional or business owner doing that thing you always thought you wanted to do, or living what any onlooker would think was the perfect life, you might automatically answer, “Yes, of course I love what I do!”

But sometimes we say that because we think we should rather than because we are actually loving it. After all, if you don’t love what you do then what’s the point of pursuing goals, and having a career/business, or a beautiful home, or (insert life goal here.)

How to love what you do

The thing is, I hear a lot of people say all the "right" things about how much they love what they do but at the same time they are really overwhelmed, stressed out all the time and constantly operating on the brink of burnout.

I don’t believe that’s what loving what you do should be, so if that sounds familiar – and you’re even feeling a bit guilty about it – here are 7 tips just for you...